Soft Perfection

Soft Perfection

Do You Feel Yourselves as “i Am the Perfect and You are ……..”

“Perfection can not be attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence†: Vince Lombardi, US Basketball Coach, author and trainer

Do you feel at any time you are ideal person or do you think you are perfect, if you have this in within you; surely, you have some problems in you. When we hear this from somebody, we obviously term him arrogant or proud; we meet such people everywhere, in offices, in personal life, in the society, everywhere. Self pride is a good thing one can have, but publicizing the same is not making any good. How one can say that “I am ………… and you are………….â€, nobody can, all persons are unique on his own ways and there are several qualities differentiating one from another. Nobody is perfect, in fact can’t be, people can be having good qualities and lacking some other qualities, one may be competitive in some fields and others are efficient in other areas, nobody can be perfect in every areas, though one’s ego tends him to think him perfect.

As Vince Lombardi commented perfection can not be attainable, but the excellence can be. If otherwise somebody start to think he is perfect, he may be a grievous person and a tough nut to crack, we should take care of him, he carries the most destructive weapon with him, i.e. Ego, his ego can hurt others and make the relations sore severely. Most people like to avoid such persons, for not being hurt by his words. We know that we can not attain perfection

We are socially bounded and we can not live without interacting with other people and when we run over the people by our might for the purpose of getting command over them. We need to talk to them this moment or the other moment, it is necessary that we have to communicate with others so that we can gain information about various things. If we do not have this attribute within us, we have to have the same from somebody, for which we have to request them to provide us and instead of requesting, we advice them to provide, then chances are that we will not have it never.

We know many things, which others don’t know, however this does not mean that we know everything, nobody knows everything in the world, the knowledge is just like an ocean and we are just a drop of water in that ocean. Though we can be proud of what we already know, we do not arrogant about the knowledge base we have. We can find out plenty of humble people, they do have sufficient knowledge than us.

We should be cooperative, honest in our dealings and our integrity is clear to others, so that a good relationship is developed, otherwise the mutual understanding may miss from the relations, instead of boss-subordinate relationship is developed, this isn’t a aspect you are expecting. Attitude makes a lot of difference. If you have a good attitude with required skills, you are the winner. The following tips may help you. Here, there are some tips to behave when we start to develop a relationship.

How to behave when we start a relationship?

·         Be humble and polite to others.

·         Do not criticize anyone, as others can also criticize you on the same point.

·         Always be professional and do not take anything personal, of course in the office and do not carry anything to home. Leave the things at office only.

·         Be friendly with your colleagues and do not get involved in any argument.

·         Do not talk loudly when you talk over the phone or to your colleagues. Talk in a soft and clear voice.

·         Wear fresh and neat clothes and if possible use nourishing sprays.

·         Always be punctual.

·         Complete your assigned task within the time frame.

·         Do not procrastinate (delay)

·         Do not talk about politics and religion in the office premises.

·         If you are invited for a party or any party, try to attend it atleast for some time. That is the best place to know more about your colleagues.

·         Do not play music loudly, especially on the mobile.

·         Be as easy going. Do not get the "tough guy" label.

·         Attend meetings regularly.

·         Be enthusiastic and energetic

·         Be an active member of your team and be a team player

·         Try to be helpful to others.

·         Be a good listener.

·         Don’t argue with anybody on anything, the others may know better than you.

·         Do not interrupt when someone else is talking.

·         Be a good learner; hear whatever others say, though you know better on the subject.

·         Discuss but do not argue.

·         Do not lose your credibility & finally

·         Do not feel yourself “Mr. Perfectâ€. Even if you have plenty of qualifications to adore your visiting card, remember, the qualifications do not make a person perfect, the human being is a combination of various qualities, attributes, traits, hence respect others and their feelings.

It is your right to proud about yourselves that you are key figure in many ways and subjects; however you should not impose this upon others, which make the relationships spoiled. For every relationship, we want to get out of the feeling that we are perfect so that a comfortable space is created for developing the right and appropriate relationship, for which we can work comfortably to have it cordial.

·         Develop the right attitude about your life and you will not need a life coach.

·         Develop the right attitude about your family and you will not need a marriage coach.

·         Develop the right attitude about your relationships and you will not need a relationship coach.

·         Develop the right attitude about your work and school life and you will not need a career coach.

·         Develop the right attitude about money and you will not need a finance coach.

I would iterate that nobody in the world can be perfect, if we chase the perfection, we can attain the excellence, never we will be able to attain perfection .

About the Author

I am working as a secretary in an Indian Conglomorate and wish to become a writer

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